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How to find your own voice in your wedding vows
Specific over sentimental
The vow that lands is not 'I love everything about you.' It is 'I love that you reread the last page of every book before you start it, and how furious you get when someone spoils the ending.' Resist the urge to be poetic. Reach for the precise.
Your voice, not vow-voice
There is a register that people slip into when they write vows. Formal. Elevated. A little stilted. It does not sound like them. The best personal vows sound exactly like you would talk if you were being the most honest you have ever been.
End at the right moment
Two to four minutes is the right length for personal vows. Three minutes is probably ideal. The best vows end before the room expects them to. You want to leave everyone wishing they had lasted just a little longer.
“The best vows resist the urge
to be poetic.”
How to structure personal wedding vows
The shape that makes vows feel complete, not like a list.
Who you were before
Start with a before-and-after. Not your life history. One sentence, or at most two, that captures who you were before this person. It sets up the contrast. It makes the room understand what the stakes are.
The moment you knew
There is a specific moment for most people. The morning after the first fight you came back from, the first time they laughed at the thing nobody else found funny, the afternoon you thought: this is the person. Tell that moment.
What you see in them
Not 'you are kind and funny and smart.' What you actually see. The specific quality you witnessed in a specific situation. The way they handled a hard thing. The thing they do that no one else notices but you.
What you promise (specifically)
The vow itself. Not 'I promise to love and cherish you forever.' What do you actually promise? The funny promise that is also real. The serious promise that reveals something true. Two or three specific commitments they will remember.
The final line
One sentence. The whole thing in a capsule. It should not try to summarize everything you said. It should feel like the only possible way to end it.
What to include in your personal vows
A memory only the two of you share
An inside reference that means something to them, even if the room does not fully understand it. Your person will know, and watching their face in that moment is what the room will photograph.
Something a little funny
Vows do not have to be entirely solemn. A single moment of lightness gives the room permission to exhale, and makes the emotion that follows feel more true, not less.
The one true promise
Beyond the standard language, what is the one thing you are actually committing to? The thing that is hard and real and specific to your relationship. That is the promise that matters.
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